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How a Widow Experienced the God of All Comfort

Grief Undone

The God of All Comfort

In 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Paul says that God is “the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our afflictions.”

But what does that mean?  How does God comfort us?  What does it look like — and feel like?

Let’s learn from Elizabeth Groves.

The Death of a Husband

In 2007 Elizabeth Groves’ dearly-loved husband died after a long bout with cancer, leaving her alone.

Before he died they had written a blog, describing their joys and sorrows and suffering through this season.

And after he died she continued the blog, writing of her grief and sorrow — and about how God comforted her.

In 2014 she published these blog posts as Grief Undone: A Journey with God and Cancer.

Last week I finished the book.  And in one section she describes how God comforted her after the death of her husband.

Loneliness and Grief

In the past she had always been able to go to Al and talk with him, share with him, be with him.

But now she was alone.  And there were times when she was overwhelmed with loneliness.

So in her loneliness and grief, she turned to the Lord.

The Lord Was THERE

Here’s what happened —

… when I went to the Lord as I would have gone to Al, the Lord was there.

He walked with me on the days when my heart was heavy, and he encouraged me that he is a God who redeems broken people and broken situations.

One night I felt concerned and discouraged about a situation, so I turned off all the lights and sat in a rocking chair in the dark living room and prayed.

As I did, I had such a sense of the Lord’s mighty, glorious majesty.

He was there in power and awe, the Creator of the universe, mighty to rule and mighty to save.

He was the God who was my Father and who loved and cared for me and for the people I loved.

Remembering that put everything into perspective.

In situations where there was nothing I could do to help, I could pray, and in fact, praying was probably the most meaningful thing.

I was not alone at all.

In the times I had no one I could talk to except the Lord, I realized more clearly than ever how close and real he was, and that he listened and cared.

He was (and is!) always there to talk with me.

Looking back I realize that those moments of the Lord reminding me of his tender, intimate love and nearness are actually the highlights of these years, and some of my most precious memories.

Something I Wouldn’t Trade Away

I’ve often heard people say that through suffering they got to know God much better, and that has certainly been true for me in losing Al.

This is not the road I would have chosen.

But I have seen the Lord’s phenomenal, overwhelming, unfailing, tender, protective, faithful love as I never had before, and I know him and have grown close to him in ways I’m sure I wouldn’t have otherwise.

That is something I wouldn’t trade away.

Honestly, this has been one of the most vibrant and glory-filled periods of my life.

The night I spent sitting in my rocking chair, alone in the dark with just the Lord to talk to, was one of the most special nights of my life.

(Elizabeth Groves, Grief Undone: A Journey with God and Cancer, Kindle loc. 2842, 2860, 2875)

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  1. Nicole Moore says:

    My name is Nicole Moore and I have a question. I went to elementary, middle and high school with a gal who I lost touch with and we are just friends on facebook. So I can’t say I really KNOW her but she posted that her husband suddenly died unexpectedly of some unknown medical problem literally within 24 hours. He died on their 15th wedding anniversary. My heart aches to help her but I don’t know how. I’ve experienced unexpected loss but not of my husband. For a week and a half she’s all I can think about. My heart just burns inside me to do something, but what? I’ve considered prayerfully doing a video and posting it to her messenger so its private, but not sure what to say. Please help me to reach her in some way. Thank you.

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