Apr 12, 2013
A few days ago a reader commented that he deals with same-sex attraction, and that he’s been pursuing celibacy since becoming a Christian 3 years ago.
His comment stirred me to write about promises which could help those battling same-sex attraction.
So here are four promises (I share four more in Part Two) —
God’s Word tells you the truth about same-sex attraction
Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. Psa 119:105
It’s like you are in a pitch-black world, trying to see what same-sex attraction really is.
Some say it’s your identity — that it defines who you really are. And sometimes that might be how it feels.
But you’re thinking — if only someone would turn on the lights so I can see what it really is.
Here’s good news: God has turned on the lights — through His Word. The Bible is clear that same-sex attraction does not define who you really are. It’s one of many results of sin entering the world, and God’s resulting judgment on that sin (Rom 1:24-32).
We all have sins we are specially drawn to. Mine are pride and discouragement. Yours might include same-sex attraction.
These do not define who we really are. These are the result of the Fall, and all who cast themselves on Christ’s mercy will be enabled to battle and ultimately conquer them.
By faith in Christ alone, you can be completely forgiven
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1Jo 1:9
It makes no difference how you’ve lived or what you’ve done. Jesus’ death on the Cross can pay for all your sins — past, present, and future.
How can you receive this? Not by trying to be good enough. But by coming to Jesus as you are.
Admit to Him that you have no goodness in yourself (Luke 18:13). Tell Him you are genuinely sorry for your sin (2Cor 7:10). And, by faith, look to Him to forgive you, change you, and satisfy you (1Jo 1:9; Luke 18:27; John 6:35).
The moment you do this, God will take all your guilt from you, and pour His love upon you.
You will be completely and everlastingly forgiven.
By faith in Christ alone, God sees you as clothed with Jesus’ perfect righteousness
For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. 2Co 5:21
The moment you trust Christ, all your sin is punished in Jesus, and all Jesus’ perfect righteousness is given to you. Not that you become perfectly righteous at that moment. But God sees you as perfectly righteous.
So no matter what you have thought, desired, or done — when you turn to trust Christ, God sees you as clothed with Jesus’ perfect righteousness. And He’s running to you with open arms (Luke 15:20).
You have every reason to turn to Him.
God will so satisfy you in Himself that you need nothing else
Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you. Psa 73:25
God might call you to heterosexual marriage. But He might call you to celibacy. And a life of celibacy can look empty.
But that’s a lie which Satan wants to use to destroy you.
You were created for the joy of knowing, worshiping, and beholding God. His joy can so fill and satisfy you that you desire nothing else — not sex, not companionship — nothing.
That’s taught in passages like Psa 4:6-7; Psa 16:11; Psa 63:5-6; Matt 13:44; John 4:13-14; John 6:35; John 7:37-38; Phil 3:8.
So if God is calling you to celibacy, it’s not like you are thirsty, and celibacy is going to be a dry desert. It’s that you are thirsty, and celibacy is God’s path to an oasis that can be experienced now and forever.
So turn from the mirages, and head for the oasis.
Living Water awaits.
More Promises in Part Two
In the next post I share the following promises —
- When you face same-sex temptation God is ready to help (Heb 4:15-16)
- Every same-sex temptation can be overcome (1Cor 10:13)
- Victory is sure (1Cor 6:9-11)
- Jesus is worth it all (Rom 8:18)
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And here are some related posts you might find helpful –
- A Reader Wonders About Life Without Sex
- How To Overcome Sexual Temptation
- 6 Reasons Heart-Satisfaction Is Crucial
- How To Be Content
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