Oct 29, 2012
Last week the Mercy Hill staff met together.
I opened in prayer and shared Colossians 1:27.
Then we celebrated ways we had seen God working.
And then we talked about how best to celebrate Christmas as a church.
I was just wondering…
Then one of the staff asked a helpful question — about whether we might want to change the way we did something at Christmas.
This sparked discussion.
Lots of discussion.
Intense and passionate discussion.
And it was clear — we were not all on the same page.
Disagreement is good
At least that’s what I’ve heard.
But it doesn’t feel very good.
Especially when some of my staff are disagreeing with me (imagine!).
So what should I do?
What should a leader do when his staff are not in agreement?
What I SHOULD have done was pause the discussion and ask —
What does Jesus promise to do for us at times like this?
That would have pointed us to Jesus — and to His promises. Like His promise to give wisdom when we ask (James 1:5).
Which means we could have taken time to stop and pray — asking Him to give us the wisdom we needed.
Who knows what He might have done?
Unfortunately we’ll never know — because that’s not what I did.
What I did instead
Instead, I took matters into my own hands.
I thought I could lead us to a conclusion by moderating the discussion — asking questions — getting everyone’s opinion — making comments — listening well.
The discussion just kept going — and going.
Back and forth — and back and forth.
Round and round — and round and round.
Until finally I realized this was taking way too much time — and I proposed we go with one suggestion that everyone felt pretty good about.
Everyone agreed — and we moved on.
What I learned from this
- Jesus is always ready to help (2Cor 9:8). He’s always standing before me — with a promise for every problem I will ever face.
- Living by faith means constantly asking — what does Jesus promise to do for me here? — and then trusting His promises.
- I am too self-sufficient. When facing a problem — instead of asking what Jesus promises to do — I rely on what I think I can do.
- When believers can’t reach agreement — it would help to pause the discussion — pray — and ask God for wisdom.
- God is merciful. Although it took way longer than it needed to — in hindsight I can see that God led us to make the right decision.
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- What Are the Promises of God?
How NOT to Make a Decision
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